if you have a personality disorder and you’ve hurt someone before and are struggling to forgive yourself even after you’ve done everything in your power to make amends, there’s something you should know: you’re not a monster. in the past you may have done atrocious things, but if you are actively working to prevent yourself from falling into those actions, if you truly feel bad about what you have done, if you actively seek out ways to repair the wrongs you have committed, you are the farthest thing from a monster. it’s important that you have owned up to the horrible things you did, it’s important that you have faced the consequences of your actions, it’s important that you have realized that what you did hurt other people, and it’s important that you are working towards never doing that again. these are all signs of a good person who know that what they did was wrong and wants to strive towards doing better, not just for themselves, but for those around them. there are plenty of people without mental illnesses who do horrible things to others and simply don’t care. sometimes they don’t even recognize that what they did was wrong, and they don’t have any irrational thought processes clouding their vision. what you did may be inexcusable, but so long as you are in the process of working towards becoming better, you are not a monster. you are worthy of compassion and recovery, you are worthy of forgiving yourself.
I know that my style of joking with friends involves insults but if I ever say something that actually hurts your feelings even if I was joking and you know I was joking please tell me and I wont say that again because its not fun or funny if you’re actually hurting because of what I said
This is important because I’ve had friends do this stuff to me and it eventually put a lot of strain on said friendships. I was uncomfortable sharing my interests around them and while we’ve talked it out and we’re all good now, it was still not fun.
Playful insults are fun but always be aware of how much you do it and how it may be affecting your friends.
